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Rare qualities of my father (for a happy life with other people)



I observed in my father few very important and rare qualities. I saw him practice these every time, with all people to some extent or the other. As a child, I understood he was a very caring man, and admired and loved such goodness.



 Relationships are much more important than ego: 
      My father could easily say 'it’s ok', 'forget it', 'don’t be angry', 'come join for dinner' etc. He did not show any ego in being the first one to speak in-spite of his age. When mummy was angry, he would go and make tea for her and make her smile. 


      He would talk about my positive qualities and care for me when I was upset, with anyone in the family. Though, me or mummy were showing some real anger, but this attitude of care, kept us cool, adjust or forgive instead of making things very serious and spoiling relationships 
      
      It’s small things which matter most in relationships: 
      My father would not bother much about the big things in life, whether my career or important life choices etc. unlike most parents. He gave his suggestions couple of times , but then let us decide. However, he would notice little, daily life things and care, each and every time. 
      For example: he would make sure that the bed-sheet is covering us , when we are asleep and would check each time he woke up in the night; he would make sure that he himself stands in queue to get some work done, which may take time or need talking to others, he would accompany mummy even for shortest distance and did not let her go alone etc. We were totally taken care of each and every time and though I felt over-protected then, now while we do most tasks independently, such care seems missing. Isn't it a beautiful experience to have someone care for your little things and do the same for others?
   
      Sharing whatever is there, with a helping, cool attitude:
I remember anyone who worked for us like milkman, rickshaw puller etc. used to come and ask for advance payment, many times. We were not rich, but my father did not say 'no' to them. There was some negotiation, but these people were heard. Papa also helped his relatives with things, money etc. and could not say 'no' when they needed help. He always seemed cool, somehow managing things without even letting us know. He kept us all out of any stress, though we were very careful from our side, but we could study or play in life, while papa was taking care of finances from his Govt job.

My father is too simple to even know or realize his worth. I was shocked and felt bad to hear him say, 'i didn't do much for children', once. I felt sorry, at parental contribution being thought only at materialistic levels. Such precious lessons of attitude are real gems but unknown to papa, what we as children picked up from his behavior. I think, i can add humility and simplicity here, as other good qualities seen.

I believe that, 'Life's most important learnings do not come from the people on top in business but those who live an ordinary life in an un-ordinary way, every moment.'

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